Love, war and football….can anything hurt you worse?
I remember a movie a few years ago that showed how a split second can change it all. Decide to turn left and get hit by a bus, turn left and meet the woman of your dreams kind of thing.
4th and 11 – a last second TD that sends one to the pinnacle of human joy with hugs and high-fives all around; or a game-clinching INT that drops one to his knees with tears of agony filling weary eyes.
Men aren’t shallow. We love our wives and kids more than anything and know where football fits in the spectrum of importance; but the thrill of victory and agony of defeat are powerful forces that cannot be appropriately put into words.
You see grown men cry, appear as venerable as top-conditioned football machines can be. Perhaps this crippling loss and the aftermath will serve to help ease the circus; although I doubt it.
It can be, though, a bonding period of understanding for fans of the storied franchises who have it so much harder than those of other teams and, more importantly, between the athletes and men who give these organizations their all.
America’s Team – some people want to debate that; and some things seem completely un-debatable. No NFL team raises the ire of people so much. No team brings out the media vultures as much. They raise these human men up, scrutinize, probe, poke and prod until a man as private, proud and steely as Terrell Owens succumbs to tears.
Winning (and losing) is harder in places like Dallas (Cowboys), New York (Yankees) or Los Angeles (Lakers) because everything is made bigger.
Let’s look at the NFL first. You have the Patriots at 16-0 coming into this weekend and all that surrounds what goes with that. They have the playboy QB who has dated models, and had a baby with one of them. Rodney Harrison is seen as a true punk by many. And Belicheck has spy gate and the evil empire that hangs over him. Certainly good stories and some that do spark coverage and conversation…..but how ‘bout them Cowboys?
Or what about the Colts trying to defend their title? Manning does more commercials that Jordan in his day. They have assistant coaches interviewing for jobs. Apparently Dungy is thinking of stepping away……but how ‘bout them Cowboys?
NY is the media capital of the world and Strahan never shies away from the camera while Eli attempts to finally get out of big brother’s shadow. Brett Favre builds orphanages in his spare time (okay that was made up); but his Paul Bunyanesque stature makes everything in his past just float away and he becomes the feel good story of the century….while over at Valley Ranch…???
But where does all the media circle like vultures all week – Dallas. Romo and Jessica in Mexico (you think maybe a Colt, Patriot or Packer took a small vacation to try and get away on their bye week – we’d never know). Will the Cowboys keep Garrett? Do they fire Wade Phillips to keep him if they lose? How many coaches and personnel will the Dolphins take?
Oh yeah – these are human men trying to live life and prepare to win a football game. I couldn’t be prouder as a fan, a man, and a person of faith to here Tony Romo stand up and say that he is strong enough in his faith to believe that he does what is right, or to see TO come to tears defending his QB, teammate and friend. Perhaps, just perhaps the media can give them a day or two to hurt like the human men that they are before they start speculating on all that went wrong and needs to be fixed.
You see – I’m not defending my team or making excuses; rather I want to make fans of other teams realize what we go through. And to illustrate that I also make mention of the Yankees and Lakers – two other teams that are “America’s team” type organizations because they are as loved as they are hated nationwide.
As much as I am on one side of the America’s Team ledger with the Cowboys, I am on the opposite side with the Yankees and Lakers – can’t stand them. But I can look across the aisle and extend a Peyton Manning-like head shake of disbelief at what they and their fans endure. I can empathize as to what it is like to have every move challenged, put under the microscope, coach and player vilified for every decision and move they make both on and off the field. To play under as much scrutiny, speculation and pressure as presidential candidates has got to be tough; but yet these men continue to come back, to give their all and fight with a pride and a bond held by few; and then stand in front of cameras and microphones and face whatever they must.
Cheerios or a pop tart. Hit the snooze and run ten minutes late, just missing that 10 car accident. Catch that pass over the middle and run for another 60 yards or miss it and the punting unit jogs out to the field. Stay home and be bombarded everyday by the media over questions and speculation about how your team struggled down the stretch and the fate of your coaches, or get away for a few days with a girl you really like and some friends and just be a regular guy. All tough choices – but no one questioned my pop tart decision this morning.
I’ve got to go now – there are about 20 people waiting for me to breakdown the game. (on a side note I was just informed by my wonderful, supporting wife that my 5 year old son who is named Dallas took his Tony Romo figurine in for preschool show and tell today – very, very proud moment… but I do not know if I should shelter him or raise him into this tough sports world as a proud supporter and fighter) I’ll wait about 2 days to let the hurt heal then I’ll go back to the drawing board and turn on the TV again to see Wade Phillips fighting for his dignity, or maybe Kobe scoring 60 while trade speculation stirs up or a Kobe / Phil feud story hits the headlines, or perhaps Steinbrenner blows up or A-Rod strikes out again or is seen with a blonde having dinner.
Hold your head high Cowboy fans, Yankee fans and Laker fans! Keep supporting your team, keep those priorities in line and be proud and know that there will never, ever be a dull day or a greater franchise in your respected sports.
Love, war and football…can anything else be more worth fighting for sometimes?